Doing readings is a special kind of job, because it is often high pressure: in that you are dealing with people's grief if you're a medium, you're dealing with people's life choices if you're a psychic, if you're an animal communicator you are speaking on behalf of the animal which is a huge responsibility.
So in addition to all that pressure, we also have this idea of psychics/mediums/intuitives in popular media that if you are the real deal, you should be able to know everything about everything all the time. So even those of us who do know that this idea isn't true or realistic, we know a psychic isn't always going to be 100% right about everything, We STILL have this subconscious belief and expectation of ourselves to be 100% right on all the time.
Then add to that that there's no real way of preparing for a specific reading, because every reading is unique. There is no way for our logical brains to know what a reading is going be like beforehand, and so naturally our brains freak out.
Add to that, that it can be hard to trust the information coming through as a reader because it can feel so similar to your brain making things up.
So we have this wonderful mix of high pressure, unrealistic expectations, no way to prepare and no idea of what to expect, and a system of reading that requires us to trust information that feels extremely similar to our own imaginations. If you're just a normal person with average self esteem and no anxiety, this can still be a lot. For people with low self confidence and anxiety, this can be overwhelming.
So what often happens is we approach readings with the intention of just not failing. I call what happens the "fear of failure cycle". This is where we will approach a reading with the intention of not failing, and so we hold ourselves back and play it safe in the reading, which inevitably causes our reading to be partially or fully off, which then causes us to think we are unreliable, that our abilities are unreliable, and that the energy we are connecting to is unreliable. That causes us to hold ourselves back in our readings even more. We then think we need to practice more. When in reality it’s just you holding yourself back that started this whole cycle, and what you really need to do is approach your confidence in a different way, so that you are not holding yourself back during a reading, and that is what I guide people through in my course.
The more you can release that fear of failure, the more you can step into confidence, the more you can then give yourself to your connection to whatever it is that you're reading whether that be a spirit, or the client's energy, whatever it is, the more you can give yourself to that connection, then the better the reading will actually be and the better you can serve others.
The less confident you are, the more you hold yourself back, the worse of a connection you get, and the worse the reading is.
This is how confidence plays a huge role in our readings.
People often think that if they can first improve the quality and accuracy of their readings, THEN they will be confident. But in my experience, if you work on a solid foundation of confidence (in addition to practice), then that is going to improve your accuracy and connection.
This is the topic we go deeper into in my course "Courage & Clairs - Confidence-training for the Intuitive Reader"
Welcome! I am a 30-something Medium and Animal Communicator. I am originally from Norway, but am currently living in Oregon, USA. This blog is to give you some insight into my life and work, as well as share tips, and some of my photography. Enjoy!