I've been wanting to write today's post for a long time, as I do bump up against misconceptions about psychics and mediums all the time. The first one I want to address is probably the most common one.
Misconception 1: That psychics and mediums are always tuning into everything around them, or that they are always "on".
My understanding is that there is no on or off switch per say (unfortunately), but it's more about what our attention is on and also our state of mind. Us psychics and mediums are always "on", but most of the time, when we are going about our day, we aren't paying much attention to our psychic senses because we are busy focusing on other normal everyday things. Personally, I don't want to constantly be picking up on random spirits or energy.
I don't speak for everyone however. I do know that some famous mediums and psychics claim to not be able to "turn off" their abilities, and I also know that many people who are just starting out developing, or just never learned how to control their abilities, have a hard time "turning it off".
Even though I love to do readings, I don't want to be doing them all the time. Asking us at parties or other places "to do a quick reading" for you is not ideal for many reasons. First of all, we might not be in the right state of mind for it. It takes a certain calm and centered-ness to connect and do a reading. We also don't want to be working all the time (just like everyone else), and if we are working, we prefer to get paid for our work (just like everyone else), as this is our livelihood.
Now that isn't to say that I haven't done readings pro bono for people in dire economic situations, or that I don't do impromptu readings for close friends. I also try to provide reading-opportunities for people with low income, through low-cost events and similar. With close friends I am constantly exchanging energy with them, meaning they do stuff for me, and I do stuff for them, without one of us getting drained from it. But other than that, I don't have the time or energy to do readings outside of my work schedule. Believe it or not, I do have a life outside of my work, with two small kids, a husband, cats, and other interests and responsibilities.
This is one misconception that I hear quite a bit, especially from people who want to take a class in mediumship or psychic development, but are afraid that they aren't able to learn because they weren't "born with it".
There is a lot of debate about whether or not mediums/psychics are born or made. In my opinion and experience, mediumship and psychic readings is something that anyone can learn to do, just like anyone can learn to play the piano. This is because everyone is born with what we call intuitive/psychic senses which is what is needed to be able to perceive spirit or psychic information. It's just that most people haven't learned to use or develop those senses.
When we are born, those senses are usually very active, but they gradually shut down out of lack of use, or from this sort of thing being discouraged. For some people those senses never shut down, which is why you sometimes see mediums or psychics saying "they were born with it" as if they are different from other people. Other people will go through a sort of awakening process later in life that awakens those senses again spontaneously. And yet other people are just drawn to learning more about it and develop their abilities that way. They are all just different ways of developing the same abilities. One way is not more authentic or better than another.
The only thing that makes me different from people who aren't psychics or mediums is that I have put quite a bit of work into developing and honing my abilities. And all the psychics and mediums I know that did grow up seeing spirits etc. still had to do quite a bit of developing and honing of their abilities to become good at it.
I think that in our society, we feel there is a certain novelty to a person who saw ghosts when they were little. Or with people who go through extreme circumstances like a near death experience. But that doesn't mean that people who didn't experience these things aren't able to develop their abilities to be equally good or better. After having taught classes for several years, I have yet to meet someone who isn't able to learn to do readings themselves.
I hope you all have a wonderful week. I am off to do some cleaning!