I am pasting in something I shared on my business Facebook page a little while ago, that I thought would be helpful to have here as well. It's connected with my last blog-post on communicating with your animals, and focusing on the thing you want them to focus on.
Sometimes we have to do things with our animal companions that we know are unpleasant for them. 💛 Vet visits, medications, moving, etc.
Last time i took Humphrey to the vet (a while ago), they hinted strongly that he would be a great candidate for tranquilizers next time he goes to the vet 😂 (he was very aggressive towards them 😬).
Last week i had to take him to the vet again, so i did a few things differently when it came to my communication with Humphrey about it all (and did not give him tranquilizers).
1. I told him i had scheduled a visit with the vet, about a week in advance. (Keeping secrets never work with pets and it just confuses them and can sometimes worry them more🙈). I was straight to the point and also told him why i was bringing him in. (Just saying it out loud is enough, as they get the gist of it).
2. I focused on the positive aspects of it: the vet being a safe place, that they will check his health and help him feel better, that they love cats and that’s why they do this work 🌞.
3. I focused on the ideal situation. I did not go into the whole “i know you hate the vet...” or “i know it was scary last time...” because when we do that we’re sending them the energy of those negative feelings, reinforcing that in them. Instead, i focused on the ideal situation🌻 (even visualized what that would look like) and told Humphrey that the calmer and more relaxed we could be, the easier and more pleasant the visit would be.
4. I managed my own anxiety/worry about it. ✨ Anytime i started to worry about it, i took a few deep breaths and released those feelings in order to make room for the ideal situation. I wanted Humphrey to know i was confident about the vet being safe and positive.
He did amazingly well this time, and even purred for a good portion of the visit. I was so proud of him 🥰 As with anything we want to communicate with our animals, to the point and focusing on the positive is a good way to go. 💛
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Being "out of the closet" as an animal communicator makes for some interesting interactions with humans. It's always entertaining to me when my riding instructor attributes any good riding I do to my animal communication abilities, and will look at me puzzled when it's not going so well, like my antenna must be off or something.
Her puzzled look is of course mainly as a joke, but I do run into similar misconceptions as an animal communicator:
1. That I am in constant conversation with any and every animal around me.
2. That because I can talk to them, they will do whatever I tell them to.
When I tell people that I am an animal communicator, I think Dr. Dolittle springs to mind for most people. Unlike Dr. Dolittle, I am not in constant conversation with any and all animals around me (just like I am not connecting with everyone's dead relatives when I am going about my day). In fact, I pretty much never initiate a conversation with an animal unless their human companion has asked me to, except when I do it simply for practical reasons or for my own pleasure of talking (usually just to tell them how beautiful they are, and please can I pet them).
(I have to admit though, that when I am riding I do try to communicate with the horse, and listen to him if he tells me I'm doing something wrong or confusing. So I guess in that way, it's helpful. However, I can't say the horse always listens to me).
Animals also aren't usually walking around telepathically broadcasting their thoughts to strangers, like they do in Doctor Dolittle. Animals tend to be centered and present and still, unless they have a reason to communicate with someone.
In addition, just because I can talk to an animal, and hear them, does not mean that they will necessarily do what I or their human companion wants them to. It really is like talking with humans: Just because I can understand you, and you understand me, does not mean you will do what I tell you to. Animals are all unique individuals, with their own personalities, desires, and needs. An Animal Communication session is really about understanding why an animal does a certain thing, and then working together to find some suitable alternatives or ways to approach it to shift the situation, in a way that honors all participants. An animal does a behavior because it meets a certain need in them. If that need isn't met in a different way, they will usually continue that behavior.
Sometimes behaviors are deeply rooted in anxiety or fear, which usually goes deeper than any kind of logical thinking on anyone's part. They might need something else in addition to a communication session, to support them and help them shift into a different state of mind. This is why I sometimes will recommend certain kinds of training or therapies for animals in a session, if I don't feel like they will respond to just our conversation about it.
That being said, animals do understand us when we talk to them, and often even if you're talking to them out loud. I have had animals reference specific conversations their human has had with them, in order to prove that they do understand. When you're talking out loud to your animal companion, you are also sending them the energy of what you want to communicate. The more intentionally you do this, the stronger it is sent, and the clearer it is.
Where we sometimes trip ourselves up is when what we intend to communicate doesn't quite match up with what we're saying. Miscommunication happens, in particular around behavioral challenges. We want the animal to stop doing something so we tell them "Don't ____", and when we do that we're sending them an image or the energy of them doing the thing we don't want them to do. It's like asking someone to not think of an elephant: they're going to think of an elephant. It becomes very confusing, and sends mixed messages. Usually, you would want to focus only on the thing you want them to do. Instead of saying "don't scratch on the furniture", you want to say "scratch only on the cat tree and scratching posts". You can even add in why, for example that we want to keep our furniture to last as long as possible, and we'd love to let them scratch, but only on the things that are made to tolerate it, like the scratching posts. Then of course, you would want to place the scratching posts close to where they have been scratching already, in order to fulfill that need in them.
I've encountered a lot of animals who do a certain behavior because they think they're supposed to. This happens all the time, because many of us unconsciously reinforce unwanted behaviors, both with our own body language AND our thoughts sending mixed messages.
Sometimes having a conversation with our animals is enough to shift their behavior and shift the energy in the home. I've had clients begin to see shifts in their animals almost immediately after our Animal Communication session. I recently did a repeat session with a client and her dog. At a previous session, she had asked me to relay to her dog that she sometimes needs to hurry back to work after she walks him, and if he can try to go to the bathroom quicker and stand around less, that would be really helpful. I relayed it to him, explaining why. The dog put in his explanation for why he has been so slow but showed himself as willing to try. Then the client updated me that her dog has been running along during his walks lately. A client's cats who were not getting along began to show visible efforts towards fixing their relationship after our session. A client's cat who had disappeared for a few days on a walk-about came home again the same night I reached out to him asking him to come home.
Whenever my own two cats have been fighting (due to stress or tension in the house, or redirecting aggression against neighbor cats onto each other), I will take some time to explain to them what the ideal situation would be like in our home, and think through specific scenarios that would be amazing to see again (such as both of them laying on me together), and I direct those thoughts to them. Over the next few days they begin to show improvements between them. They will begin to snuggle together again, and even share my lap again. Of course, like I mentioned, talking to animals isn't always enough to shift a situation like this. Sometimes you have to employ things like play therapy or doing a proper reintroduction between the cats in addition to the communicating, in order to give them a little boost in shifting the negative associations they have with the other cat.
You too can talk to your animals in a way that they can understand, without you needing to be an Animal Communicator. Our connection and communication with animals is strongest when it's based on love. If I am working with an animal that isn't mine, I will always start off by feeling and directing my love for animals to them (it helps that I absolutely adore animals in general). With your own animal, conjure up your feelings of love for them. That is the base of your connection.
Then we can communicate with them via our thoughts. When I communicate with an animal, I basically direct my thoughts to them, including words, feelings, and pictures in my mind's eye.
Talking out loud to animals usually works just fine as well, because when you're talking you are also sending the energy of what you want to communicate, and often pictures and feelings automatically as well. Again, you have to be clear on what you want to communicate, and align it with what you're saying. If you don't want them to do something, you have to focus on what you actually want them to do instead. That way the energy of what you're communicating matches up with the words, the pictures you're sending, and the feelings. If we can do this as intentionally as possible, with as much feeling and clarity as possible, the communication will be a lot clearer for the animal.
So if you want to help your enemy cats become friends again, you would sit down and place your awareness on the cats. Then begin to talk out loud or in your mind to them, about how incredibly happy it would make all of you if you all got along, and made an effort to be patient and accepting of one another. You would conjure up an image of them snuggling together and sharing space together again, and direct it to them. You would conjure up a feeling of peace and joy and contentment, and direct that to them as well. If there's a specific spot in the house that one of the cats has been attacking the other, you can imagine what it would ideally look like instead, with the cats being able to walk by each other peacefully and respectfully, and be able to relax and feel safe around each other again.
Of course, this is just one small part of my work as an animal communicator. Most of the work for me lies in receiving what the animal wishes to communicate to their human companion. This is something that everyone can do to some extent, but it takes training and a lot of practice to do it in any kind of reliable way.
I often think of a session as couple's therapy, where we're working through the misunderstanding that has happened. Giving an animal the opportunity to be heard can be very therapeutic for them (and they're always so grateful to their humans for making the effort to understand them). A session also helps their human companions feel much closer to them. It really is an honor for me to be a part of that process!
I am sending you and your animal companions lots of love this week,
Hello again, everyone! We got a dusting of snow here in Portland Oregon last night, and so of course we're snowed in for the day (my husband's work was canceled!). This is so foreign to me since I remember having to trudge to school through snow up to my waist in Norway. But it is nice to have some days where we're forced to stay home due to icy roads. The best is of course that everyone stays safe!
Today I thought I would share the transcript of a talk I did for the Shelter Animal Reiki Association last year. I had the wonderful honor of giving a talk about having clear boundaries, ways to shift our perception of charging money for our work, and also ways in which we can become more balanced as opposed to drained from doing this work. I wanted to share the transcript here, for students of mine, and for others who are developing, whether they do reiki or mediumship or any other kind of spiritual work.
First I want to say that with blog-post, my goal is not to tell anyone what to do around charging for their services or tell people they have to raise their prices or anything like that. If you do readings for free for people and that feels balanced for you and is working great, then that is awesome, I wouldn't want you to change anything. This talk is more for people who are afraid to charge for their spiritual services, when they actually would like to make their spiritual work their livelihood and have it be a job that can support them.
I bet most people reading this have believed at some point or another that spiritual services, such as psychic readings, or healings, or even classes on spiritual topics, should be offered for free. I've heard it many times before, from others and also in my own head. I run up against these beliefs all the time, since I also teach others how to do the work that I do. I know that there can be a lot of layers as to why we don't feel comfortable taking payment for our services, or to be compensated for our time, but I will try to unpack it all as best as I can here, and give you some shifts in perspective on the topic, and share my own advice. I will be talking about setting healthy boundaries with clients around money and time in relation to your spiritual services, such as intuitive readings or healing.
Our spiritual work does not exist in its own spiritual bubble. We are all human beings as well, who have real-world obligations. Let's first get clear on the simple realities around offering spiritual services.
Reality – Money
Because we are human beings, we have all sorts of financial obligations. The money we make through the work that we do is what pays our rent, food, bills, taking care of our families, etc. I have two kids. Even if you don't have a family, maybe you have animal companions, or health issues that you need to spend time and money on. If you take on a full-time job in the “real-world” to pay those bills, you have a lot less time and energy to do the spiritual services that you have a gift for doing or that lights you up. For example, if I was to take on a normal 9-5 job, I would probably only have time and energy to do my spiritual work one day a week, versus what I do now which is 5 days a week. I personally feel that I can be of better service to the world if I can dedicate myself to this work, which means that this work also has to bring in an income.
There are also financial costs to offering our spiritual services: the rent for the space you use to do the sessions, website fees, business cards, travel expenses if you do sessions at people's homes, and so on and so forth. And of course, we also have to pay taxes, so we need to make sure that whatever is left over after fees and taxes are deducted, that that amount can still support us. These are all things that need to be factored into the cost of doing sessions.
Reality – Time
In addition to the time and energy it takes to do the readings, or healing sessions, or teach classes, there's also a lot of time that goes towards answering emails, you probably do your own book-keeping, writing all your own teaching materials, and preparing for your sessions and classes. Then there's all the energy it takes to do a great reading! There are limits to have many readings I can do a week without exhausting myself or hitting a wall. No matter what kind of spiritual services you offer, there are probably limits to how many sessions you can do in a day and still feel good and energized. This is generally not the type of work that we can do from 9-5, 5 days a week. It takes a lot of energy.
Reality – Time/Money/effort of learning your skills
And then we have all the time, effort, and money you've put in, to learn and hone your skills to be of the highest service that you can be. You've probably used a lot of time studying, taking classes, and practicing! And all that time, money, and effort has produced the things you can now offer to others.
You know, whenever you pay a counselor for a session, for example, you're not just paying them for their time. You're also paying them for their education and their expertise. There are so many things that go into a session, other than that 1 hour you spend with your client.
Now for me, being a great medium and animal communicator, also means living a life that supports my work and keeps my work of the highest quality. This means I have an extensive spiritual practice that includes daily meditation, and other things that help me do the work that I do best. And I bet that many of you also have some sort of spiritual practice that supports your work.
Most of us are pretty clear on these realities. These are not the more difficult things to understand around whether or not we should charge for our services.
Where we often come up against blocks is in our perspective on the spiritual versus the material.
A really common belief is that anything spiritual should always be offered for free because it is a gift from the divine. But you have to ask yourself, aren't all talents or skills gifts from the Divine? And yet we don't have the same expectation of free work from designers, teachers, leaders, chefs, farmers, doctors etc. So spiritual gifts aren't really any more gifts from the Divine than other skills or talents.
A lot of us also walk around with this romantic idea of ancient times, when every village had a wise-person who offered their gifts freely to the rest of the village. This is actually not a very accurate idea of what it was like in the past, because in most cases, you were still expected to offer a gift in return for the healer's services. So that is basically the same thing we do today, except we usually pay money instead of exchanging goods for services.
Even priests and pastors have their needs met by the churches they work for or by donations from their followers. They are able to work "for free", because someone else is paying for their rent and for their food, and for their needs.
I believe we have a deeper collective societal belief that the spiritual should be separate from the material. That anything that belongs to the mundane world of things and money and our day-to-day lives should be separated from the spiritual. This is a belief we find often in religious traditions. But we, as spiritual practitioners usually learn in our work that everything is energy, even solid material objects around us are energy. The physical and the spiritual are in fact intimately intertwined and part of the same fabric of energy. They couldn't be separated if we tried. So the belief that asking for money somehow taints your spiritual service, that belief becomes irrelevant because money is just energy, just like a mediumship reading is dealing with just energy. You are simply exchanging different kinds of energy. One is not better or worse than the other. They are just tools for different things.
Then we come to this question of whether or not it is ethical to charge for your services.
Let's say you're a reiki healer. You are not the only one who does energy healing, or even reiki healing. If you were claiming to be the only one in the world who could do healings, and you charged exhorbitant prices for it, that would probably NOT be ethical. But you are NOT the only one who does reiki. So you know that if a person comes to your website and sees your prices for your services, and they can't afford it, there is probably someone else out there in the world offering services that they can afford.
We also know that what you offer is also not the only way a client can solve the problem they have that they would like the healing session for. There are so many different therapies out there, so by charging fair prices for your sessions, you are not with-holding help from someone, because you are not the only one out there that can help them. So there's nothing really unethical about asking for fair compensation for your services.
Another area we tend to come up against blocks when it comes to money boundaries, are around you valuing what you have to offer, which is intimately connected to your self-esteem.
I will go on a little bit of a tangent here, but bear with me, and I promise it will tie in with boundaries again. You may have heard the quote: "We are not physical beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a physical experience." This essentially just means that we are spirits within bodies. We are not our bodies. We just have bodies in order to experience life. We are actually much more than our bodies. Just imagine: if we are spirit, there is probably so much more to us than we can even fathom. And as spirit, we are all connected, and we are all facets of the Divine. (I write more about this in another blog-post here).
No matter what your skills are, or how good or bad of a practitioner you are, you are so much more than your abilities. So questions of whether or not you are worthy of fair payment becomes irrelevant, because you are beyond worthy. You are literally the essence of all that is, and you are complete perfection. You are beyond worthy, and so is everyone else. You are as worthy of abundance as everyone else is.
Boundaries essentially come from a strong belief in your own worth. Because you are also a part of the divine, you have a right to compensation for your time and energy and abilities. You have a right to free-time spent doing things that you love to do. You have a right to refill your cup.
What our goal is with creating boundaries around money and time is ultimately to create more balance in your life.
Undercharging for your services does not create balance. Giving too much of your time to others does not create balance. Those things tend to deplete you. And the more depleted you are, the less energy you have to help others.
My first suggestion for creating balance and boundaries is getting clear on what your priorities are. And I mean, what YOUR priorities are, not what others feel your priorities should be.
Let's say someone emails you, looking for a free intuitive reading, and they probably could afford to pay for the session if they chose to. So you look in your schedule and you see you have some free time that you could potentially use to do a free session. That free time in your schedule is not just free time. It's time that could be spent doing other things as well, things that might be more important to you than doing free sessions. What I am hoping to do with this blog-post is help you shift your perspective, where you begin to see yourself as equally worthy of all good things, as much as anyone else in the world, as much as the person who just emailed you. My priorities are such that the time I am not spending doing work that brings in an income to support me and my family, I want to be spending that other time with my family or doing other things that I am passionate about.
So you want to get clear on what your priorities are with your time and energy.
If you give too much of your free time without balanced compensation, then you will probably hit a wall fast and hard, or begin to feel resentful or exhausted from the work you do.
So how do you say no to the people that ask you for free services? I think a lot of us are afraid to tell people “No” because we are afraid of coming off as mean. But you can be warm and nice and still say no. The two are not mutually exclusive. A great book I would recommend for this point in particular is "Playing Big" by Tara Mohr.
Whenever someone emails me, asking for a free reading, I usually respond with something like this:
Hey there, I am so sorry to hear about your situation. You can schedule a session with me via my website www.theahealer.com . I unfortunately don't have the time or energy to do readings outside of that. I hope you have a wonderful week. Warmly, Thea
In an email like this I am being warm and understanding, but also explaining my situation, and then allowing them to decide if they would like to schedule a proper session with me or not, and that's completely up to them.
If the person emailing can't afford a session because they're struggling financially, I might not have the time or energy to give them a free session, but I might briefly send them some sort of helpful resources for their situation.
For example, I often have people emailing me because their pet passed away tragically or suddenly, and they just want to know that they're OK, or they want their pet to know that they love them. I don't have energy to do a reading for them, but I can share with them quickly a couple insights, such as that in my experience, every animal I've talked to who has passed away is always more than OK. Or I might say that when our pets pass away, they can still hear us as they are still close by. You don't need me to tell your pets that you love them. I might send them to a blog-post I've written on the topic.
That way, in sharing this briefly with the person, I am sending them something to work with, that might help them, but it also takes me very little energy as compared to doing a free reading for them.
In a reiki situation, maybe a person can't afford a healing session, but their pet is going through some horrible health issues. You might for example offer to put the pets name under a charged reiki crystal or candle. You might briefly explain how the owner can support the animal, such as how they can manage their own stress so as not to make the animal's stress worse, or maybe suggest some other things the owner can do to help. These things are pretty quick and easy to write out in an email, and you are still helping them out without draining yourself.
As healers, we often have this impulse to help and heal everyone else. Except it's not really your responsibility to heal everyone else. Even when it comes to animals, an animal's human companion is the one responsible for their healing or well-being. This impulse we have to help and heal everyone, is often linked with ideas of self-worth again. We tie our worth up in how useful we can be to other people. But your worth is inherent. Back to what I was saying before, you are beyond worthy, whether or not you help someone heal. You are part of the divine, and nothing you do or say or feel changes that worth.
There is a difference between feeling responsible for healing or helping everyone else, and being able to help others from a space of balance and content. It's kind of along the same lines as the advice of putting on your own oxygen mask first, before helping someone else put on theirs. You help others the best if you first make sure you've taken care of yourself and you're in a space of balance.
If charities and paying it forward are important for you and part of your priorities in life, then find some ways in which you can do that in a way that feels good and balanced to you, and not draining. What is balanced and nourishing is going to be different for everybody because we all live different lives. I know some people who donate one session a month to someone who needs it, and others who donate one session a week to someone who needs it. I know some people who volunteer at shelters a couple times a week. I personally have a few ways in which I can give back with my work.
When I teach a class, if I am able, I always try to reserve one spot for a partial or full scholarship for someone who is having a hard time financially. I have been very blessed in my life with many generous teachers, and so I try to pay it forward in this way.
I also do mediumship audience readings with other mediums, where all the proceeds go to a local charity.
I might do Facebook lives where I do free mini-readings for those watching.
The thing with these ways in which I give back, is that I still feel like I receive something from them. There is still this exchange of energy. With the audience readings, and facebook lives, though I make nothing from those events, they do function like advertisement for my business. I have brought in a bunch of new clients from them, but even if I wasn't, I would still see these as opportunities to get some more practice in and just spread the word, so they would still feel balanced to me. With the scholarships for my classes, if I have an empty spot, I don't usually feel like it takes me any more energy to add that extra student. So these are ways in which I give back or provide services for free that feels balanced to me, and I am not drained, and I am doing them on my own terms.
So what I would recommend is to create a structure for the way you give back, meaning YOU decide the ways in which you want to give back, YOU decide how much time you want to give towards that every month, and then you stick to that plan. That way you know that you've got your giving covered, and then you won't feel as compelled to just give give give to anyone or everyone all the time outside of that plan.
Even if you didn't do any charity work: you receiving money for your services still empowers you to help others. When you have a stronger flow of income, you have more to give as well. The money that you spend on other people's services goes back into the economy, supporting other families. Also, when you have more, you also have more to donate to causes that are important to you. Making money from your services is not inherently evil. You are supported so that you can also support others.
Competition with this field?
When I started out, I remember being afraid that my prices would be too high for people so that they'd maybe not want to schedule sessions with me. That can be a paralysing fear for some of us, that if we set these boundaries, that we're then going to drive people away. That we have to always be accomodating to everyone who is interested in a session with us. Or we get caught up in competition with other practitioners around us, feeling like we have to cut our prices in order to get any clients. Let's delve into why that is an irrational fear.
I personally do not believe in competition in spiritual fields of work, for 2 reasons.
1. There really is no shortage of people needing help. Or people who want help with their animals. Or people who want guidance. Truly, there is plenty to go around. Just think about the statistics. If we take animal reiki as an example: how many people have pets? And then consider that maybe half those people are open to energy healing for their pets. That's still many many more people than there are reiki healers.
2. The second reason I don't believe in competition, is that I know I am not the right healer or psychic for everyone. The right people will be drawn to me. The wrong people won't. That's OK. It's actually ideal.
That there are a lot of people who offer similar services to you is actually a good thing. Firstly, because more people can be helped. Secondly, because even if you happen to offer the same services that someone else does, what you offer in your sessions is probably not an exact copy. You and your services are likely totally unique, because you are totally unique. You have your own unique combination of experiences and teachings that you've accumulated and that you draw on in your sessions. No body can truly emulate you.
And that also means that you are probably not the right fit for many people out there, just as I am not the right fit for many people out there. I am glad that there are others out there offering similar services to what I do, because that means that we can each focus on the groups of people that do fit us and that we can actually be of service to. I don't want everyone to come to me, because I know that many of the people out there are not going to jive well with me and what I do.
I also trust that what is meant for me is mine. I know the universe has a way of bringing the right people to me when the time is right. I trust, that if we are meant to work together, then it will work out in some way. And if it's not meant to be, then it's not meant to be. I do not have to change my boundaries or bend over backwards to fit someone into my schedule or accommodate for them in ways that become stressful for me, because if we are meant to work together, then it will happen. If we're not meant to work together, then it won't. That's OK.
I would also recommend, in order to avoid negotiation on your prices and time, put your fees out there for people see, so that they can then decide if you're the right fit for their budget. There are plenty of people out there that could use your services, that would also be willing to pay for those services. You don't want the clients who feel like your services aren't worth it. From experience, I have learned that when you expect compensation, you attract clients that expect to compensate you and are happy to do so.
Many of us also tend to have this impulse to do more. We want to help more, we want to heal more.
Maybe a client purchases a half hour session from you and you end up adding on an extra free half hour because you are afraid that the first half hour isn't enough. Or maybe you end up adding lots of additional help and support via email to a client, because you are afraid that what you already offered wasn't enough. Maybe we feel that we are simply not enough, so we keep wanting to add more value to our offerings.
What I find helpful in situations like this, is to make sure that you are very clear to your clients about what to expect from your offering. You can put that on your website, or tell them before you start the session, letting the client know what to expect during the session and what effects they can expect after the session. That way you won't feel compelled to have to out-perform those expectations. Knowing that they are on the same page as you takes a lot of the pressure off.
I am a big believer in putting all information on a website, because it's often in one-on-one conversations or emails that we feel compelled to negotiate. If you put all the information up on your website, you cut out a good part of the people who aren't a good fit for you and your boundaries, and you can attract those who are a good fit. Clear communication is so key to keeping strong boundaries and balance in your life. That's why I recommend putting it all out there, and then letting potential clients to decide if they want to work with you or go to someone else.
It's kind of like letting people know that “This is me, this is what I do, this is what I charge for those services, this is what you can expect from those services, and this is my available schedule.” Then it's up to the potential clients to decide if that suits them.
So to recap briefly:
With this blog-post, I don't mean to pressure anyone to raise their prices or stop giving freely of their time. But I want to present to you a different perspective, that you have a right to thrive from doing this sacred work, and you have a right to balance in your life. I also want to show you that you can charge for your services and your time, and also give back in other ways that feel nourishing to you instead of draining. And you can say no and still be nice and warm.
What you do in the world, when you are doing your best, always has value, no matter what it is!
Sending you all lots of love,
I often feel extremely lucky to do what I do for a living. Every day is different, and I don't think I will ever get bored from this work.
Last week, in addition to my mediumship readings, I got to communicate with 7 horses, 2 dogs, and 2 cats (all still living.). Their personalities and ages and challenges were immensely varied. Some readings were hilarious. Some were beautifully touching. Some were charmingly scatterbrained.
Every reading is unique. One thing that is often the same though, is that animals will bring up things that the owner has only ever thought about, not spoken about in front of them. I love that animals share this because it shows just how connected they are to their human companions, and how much they are picking up from them.
This is not surprising, because what an animal and I do when we're communicating is using thoughts (telepathy basically), which are just energy. Us humans tend to be energetically broadcasting our unspoken thoughts throughout the day, and so our animal friends will hear them, particularly those thoughts that are emotionally charged or repeated a lot.
In addition to our thoughts, they also are very in-tune with our emotions. Emotions are also just energy, and can be communicated in the same way as thoughts. I have talked with a lot of animals who see their role in life as emotional support for their humans. Just last week I talked to several furry beings who mentioned they had been essential to their humans' healing journey: from heart-break, difficult parental relationships, and learning self-love.
Sometimes animals will take on the emotional stuff that the human is going through, and it manifests in the animal as anxiety or physical issues. They also tend to mirror our physical diseases and symptoms. If I had a quarter for every time I've talked to an animal that has the same diseases or pains as their owner, I would be a rich person. Hip pain, back pain, cancers, skin diseases, rare degenerative diseases in the same spots, you name it. Even one of my cats and I have similar health issues.
I find that, in addition to investing in our animal companion's health and well-being, we can relieve a lot of their work by investing in our own healing. By working on ourselves, getting back into balance, healing and grounding, we help our animal companions out immensely. There's less stress for them to absorb, and more healing energies for them to benefit from. If there's one thing I have learned from my work as a medium and animal communicator, it's that we're all connected. When we heal ourselves, we heal the collective as well.
Wishing you all a very healing week!
You may have noticed that my photography gravitates towards nature. It's a place that, to me, so perfectly embodies both the spiritual and the physical. A flower is so obviously fully material, and fully spiritual, at the same time. Being in nature can lift me up spiritually, and ground me deeper than anything.
I was talking to a good friend and colleague yesterday, and we both expressed how sick we are of everything "woo". Don't get me wrong: I love everything about what I do (and feel so lucky and honored to be able to do it), and I also partake in daily spiritual practices, etc. But I've also been feeling very uninspired in the realm of all things "woo". It's a strange feeling for me, because I used to be so obsessed with everything to do with psychics and getting readings, but at this point I would rather be surprised about what's coming up for myself!
Outside of my work, I've been more interested in just connecting with nature or my family or my body, and feeling present, grounded, and physically content.
It does remind me that it is important for a medium, or anyone, to have a physical life as well as a spiritual life. We don't just sit meditating all day, connecting to Spirit. We have lives that need to be lived. Not just so that we can better relate to other people's lives and be able to bring through the right references in a reading. But also so that we learn how to navigate what it means to be physical, because that in itself is important. To deal with our health and physical well-being. To make sure we're getting to experience the things in life that inspire us and teach us and push us. To make sure we're growing. To balance us out. We are not just spirits. We're in human bodies with human lives with physical obligations as well. Sometimes it would serve me better to go get lunch, rather than listen to a spiritual sermon. (And sometimes it's the opposite).
If you're going through a period where everything seems focused on the physical, embrace it. There is nothing wrong with needing to slow down, ground, and focusing on nourishment.
I hope you all have a lovely (nourishing) week
Welcome! I am a 30 year old Medium and Animal Communicator. I am originally from Norway, but am currently living in Oregon, USA. This blog is to give you some insight into my life and work, as well as share some of my photography. Enjoy!